Five ways to face troubles and ways to deal with troubles
Brief content: by the end of the year, everyone has counted the joy of this year in their hearts. Some people think that life is rich and happy, others think life is good, but the pressure is greater. How to deal with a lot of troubles?
In 2009, we were in a hurry, sometimes bored, sometimes singing from the bottom of our hearts, but did not resonate. At the end of this year, Life Times and Sina online Health Channel jointly conducted an online survey on what joys and troubles they experienced in 2009, and invited many authoritative psychologists. We discussed our psychological history for a year with 2996 netizens who participated in the survey.
The ages of the respondents were concentrated in the 20-50 years old, of which 20-30 years old accounted for 31.5% 30-35 years old 14.3% 35-40 years old accounted for 18.1% 40-45 years old accounted for 14.7%, others accounted for 21.4%. After taking a careful inventory of their 2009, 44.8% of people thought they were more upset than last year dildo hero , 28.2% thought they were happier than before, and 27.0% thought this year was the same as in previous years, unhappy penis cage , but not bothered. In the reporter's random survey, in 2009, people also had different feelings.
2009 was my luckiest year lesbian double dildo , when my husband and I owned the first house of our own, our baby was born last month, and all the good things came so quickly. " Zhang told reporters like this. For Mr. Zhao, 2009 was a lost year: promotion opportunities were snatched by colleagues with backgrounds, work was unhappy, he always quarreled with his wife at home, and now he is on the brink of divorce. I think my biggest worry is that these dissatisfaction can no longer be sad or angry, and can be expressed in one sentence. Unhappy things have no effect on me.
In fact, the result is not surprising. Wang Yu, president of the Shanghai Psychological Counseling Association, told the Life Times that 2009, which is about to bid farewell, is full of turbulence and uncertainty, with rising house prices, rising prices, and difficulties in employment. From all aspects of depression and pressure accumulation in people's hearts nowhere to release, gradually form a chronic, malignant cycle, people's happiness decline, even if there is a small happiness, in the face of great pressure also seems negligible. Zhang Yiyun, an EQ management expert and PhD in psychology at the Georgia Institute of Technology, also said that many social events such as the financial crisis and H1N1 A flu also set the tone for stress and variables in 2009.
Time survey professor, research fellow of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and vice president of the Chinese Society of Social Psychology, said the findings are in line with the new trend of Chinese people's health problems in recent years. As China's economy is currently in the development stage from US $GDP1000 to US $3000 per capita, it is a three-loss period in which the economy is prone to maladjustment, social disorder and psychological imbalance. In the period when the bottleneck is the most serious, it is reasonable for people to feel the pressure on their own and their families' health, especially their mental health.
Zheng Xifu, a professor of social psychology at South China normal University, said that the motivation to vent unhappiness is much stronger than to enjoy happiness. Happy people who see this survey may laugh and unhappy people often take the opportunity to vent and resonate. Just like online news contributions, there are always the most contributions. When we do this survey every year, it turns out that people have more troubles than happiness. After all, all the troubles come from the gap between reality and expectations. The hardest thing for people to see is the happiness they already have.
Five major troubles.
So, what bothers us? Let's take a look at the troubles of the top five.
The health of themselves and their families accounted for 15.3%. Zhang Yiyun interpreted that people are most worried about their health because individuals have the worst control on this issue. generally speaking, things that are out of control are the most likely to make people feel stressed. Although the economic atmosphere in 2009 is not good, but money clitoral vibrator , houses, after all, can still be obtained through efforts, while health is not. In case cancer strikes one day, people can only resign themselves to fate.
Marriage and family problems accounted for 13.5%. Zhang Yiyun pointed out that the focus on family and marriage has something to do with the concentration of the survey team between the ages of 20 and 40. People in this age group have old people and villains, married people must associate with their partners, and the fear of not getting married will leave men and women, which have a great impact on personal well-being.
Work stress, accounting for 13.3%. Modern work not only requires hard physical strength and mind, the most important thing is that people act as emotional workers-they need to show feelings that match their work, and they need not only teachers, callers, salespeople, etc., but also technicians. This role can't escape. Long-term emotional labor is also possible to experience more negative feelings, easy to produce work fatigue, difficult to cope with stress.
Salaries and promotions account for 12.5%. The rapid development of society brings more opportunities. After meeting the basic needs of food and clothing, we can achieve our own value. At the same time, survival is more difficult, alone to find an iron bowl, to meet the radish pit, is equivalent to sailing against the current, at this time only constantly adjust their career positioning, in order to have their own competitive advantage. Therefore, the pursuit of salary increase and promotion has become the embodiment of many people to achieve advanced psychological needs.
Children's education accounted for 10.9%. The three failures also upset the balance between work and family, believing that men and women have become employees, and no one can go all out in their children's education, but no one can evade their responsibilities. In addition, the post-70s and post-80s who were born at the turning point of society began to have children, and raising children was hit by both traditional and modern times, and many variables put pressure on them.
So what do these rankings of annoyance mean? Considering the troubles around you, first choose the points closest to you, such as health and family. Because this aspect of annoyance will be with people all the time. For example, if you are sick, you can always feel this pain, such as having a bad relationship with your partner and going home every day. This bad idea will be repeatedly reinforced in your mind. Zheng Xifu explained that problems such as job, salary and promotion are farther away from people, and it is easy to escape and find replacements.
In addition, when asked about the troubles they most wanted to avoid in 2010, netizens chose the same top five projects as they did in 2009, but ranked slightly differently. Wang Yu said: from another point of view, this is also a sign of social progress. It shows that people have gone through the era of material desires, pay attention to their own body and mind, and to a certain extent formed a stable outlook on life and values.
In 2009, we were in a hurry, sometimes bored, sometimes singing from the bottom of our hearts, but did not resonate. At the end of this year, Life Times and Sina online Health Channel jointly conducted an online survey on what joys and troubles they experienced in 2009, and invited many authoritative psychologists. We discussed our psychological history for a year with 2996 netizens who participated in the survey.
The ages of the respondents were concentrated in the 20-50 years old, of which 20-30 years old accounted for 31.5% 30-35 years old 14.3% 35-40 years old accounted for 18.1% 40-45 years old accounted for 14.7%, others accounted for 21.4%. After taking a careful inventory of their 2009, 44.8% of people thought they were more upset than last year dildo hero , 28.2% thought they were happier than before, and 27.0% thought this year was the same as in previous years, unhappy penis cage , but not bothered. In the reporter's random survey, in 2009, people also had different feelings.
2009 was my luckiest year lesbian double dildo , when my husband and I owned the first house of our own, our baby was born last month, and all the good things came so quickly. " Zhang told reporters like this. For Mr. Zhao, 2009 was a lost year: promotion opportunities were snatched by colleagues with backgrounds, work was unhappy, he always quarreled with his wife at home, and now he is on the brink of divorce. I think my biggest worry is that these dissatisfaction can no longer be sad or angry, and can be expressed in one sentence. Unhappy things have no effect on me.
In fact, the result is not surprising. Wang Yu, president of the Shanghai Psychological Counseling Association, told the Life Times that 2009, which is about to bid farewell, is full of turbulence and uncertainty, with rising house prices, rising prices, and difficulties in employment. From all aspects of depression and pressure accumulation in people's hearts nowhere to release, gradually form a chronic, malignant cycle, people's happiness decline, even if there is a small happiness, in the face of great pressure also seems negligible. Zhang Yiyun, an EQ management expert and PhD in psychology at the Georgia Institute of Technology, also said that many social events such as the financial crisis and H1N1 A flu also set the tone for stress and variables in 2009.
Time survey professor, research fellow of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and vice president of the Chinese Society of Social Psychology, said the findings are in line with the new trend of Chinese people's health problems in recent years. As China's economy is currently in the development stage from US $GDP1000 to US $3000 per capita, it is a three-loss period in which the economy is prone to maladjustment, social disorder and psychological imbalance. In the period when the bottleneck is the most serious, it is reasonable for people to feel the pressure on their own and their families' health, especially their mental health.
Zheng Xifu, a professor of social psychology at South China normal University, said that the motivation to vent unhappiness is much stronger than to enjoy happiness. Happy people who see this survey may laugh and unhappy people often take the opportunity to vent and resonate. Just like online news contributions, there are always the most contributions. When we do this survey every year, it turns out that people have more troubles than happiness. After all, all the troubles come from the gap between reality and expectations. The hardest thing for people to see is the happiness they already have.
Five major troubles.
So, what bothers us? Let's take a look at the troubles of the top five.
The health of themselves and their families accounted for 15.3%. Zhang Yiyun interpreted that people are most worried about their health because individuals have the worst control on this issue. generally speaking, things that are out of control are the most likely to make people feel stressed. Although the economic atmosphere in 2009 is not good, but money clitoral vibrator , houses, after all, can still be obtained through efforts, while health is not. In case cancer strikes one day, people can only resign themselves to fate.
Marriage and family problems accounted for 13.5%. Zhang Yiyun pointed out that the focus on family and marriage has something to do with the concentration of the survey team between the ages of 20 and 40. People in this age group have old people and villains, married people must associate with their partners, and the fear of not getting married will leave men and women, which have a great impact on personal well-being.
Work stress, accounting for 13.3%. Modern work not only requires hard physical strength and mind, the most important thing is that people act as emotional workers-they need to show feelings that match their work, and they need not only teachers, callers, salespeople, etc., but also technicians. This role can't escape. Long-term emotional labor is also possible to experience more negative feelings, easy to produce work fatigue, difficult to cope with stress.
Salaries and promotions account for 12.5%. The rapid development of society brings more opportunities. After meeting the basic needs of food and clothing, we can achieve our own value. At the same time, survival is more difficult, alone to find an iron bowl, to meet the radish pit, is equivalent to sailing against the current, at this time only constantly adjust their career positioning, in order to have their own competitive advantage. Therefore, the pursuit of salary increase and promotion has become the embodiment of many people to achieve advanced psychological needs.
Children's education accounted for 10.9%. The three failures also upset the balance between work and family, believing that men and women have become employees, and no one can go all out in their children's education, but no one can evade their responsibilities. In addition, the post-70s and post-80s who were born at the turning point of society began to have children, and raising children was hit by both traditional and modern times, and many variables put pressure on them.
So what do these rankings of annoyance mean? Considering the troubles around you, first choose the points closest to you, such as health and family. Because this aspect of annoyance will be with people all the time. For example, if you are sick, you can always feel this pain, such as having a bad relationship with your partner and going home every day. This bad idea will be repeatedly reinforced in your mind. Zheng Xifu explained that problems such as job, salary and promotion are farther away from people, and it is easy to escape and find replacements.
In addition, when asked about the troubles they most wanted to avoid in 2010, netizens chose the same top five projects as they did in 2009, but ranked slightly differently. Wang Yu said: from another point of view, this is also a sign of social progress. It shows that people have gone through the era of material desires, pay attention to their own body and mind, and to a certain extent formed a stable outlook on life and values.
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